When we watch a movie everything seems so romantic, a walk on the streets looks delightful, eating in a restaurant looks like love, couples holding hands shoots our imagination, a view of the mountains, rains, they all seem to flow to a perfect moment. But what happens in our lives, are we able to romanticize every bit of it. I do not say in a way of copying someone, that could take you further away from what we are trying to achieve here, as when you try to feel like someone, you restrict your natural feelings to come out, you ask your brain to go into the working mode to create something for you, whereas in romance heart is the flag bearer. Being authentic to yourself is most important here, owning your moments as unique by surrendering to them and appreciating them as being enough. A cup of tea on a rainy day needs no validation from your WhatsApp status or a Facebook post. It needs a deep feeling that comes from deep down inside your heart which makes it enough. You and your moment with no one in it romanticize it.
Romanticizing life is like the romance with your first kiss when there was no one other than two people in it, and you were not even bothered by how others thought about it because it gave you something to always cherish and remember. The power of such moments is they bring back those feeling when you try to recall them later. Try recalling your first love, it is still able to bring you certain emotions if you loved deeply. Distractions lessen the value of our moments. The power they otherwise hold of re-living the same feeling back, when we are not in them later diminishes, if we don’t surrender completely to them. Life feels shallow if you live with distractions. The new trend of the internet makes us incapable of surrendering to the moment, surrendering to the people we are with, to the conversations we are having as distractions in the form of phone calls, messages, live video updates pop now and then interrupting the flow. If you want to romanticize life, try avoiding these distractions and create moments for you, finding flow in the life and the one thing you want to associate yourself with. It happens often with us, we are in a process of feeling something beautiful and as the feelings are unfolding themselves to make the moment memorable, we stop the natural flow of our emotions, with our some other thoughts of recording it or posting it on our Instagram or any other social media thereby creating a different spiral of thoughts and emotions thinking of the likes we are going to get and people who are going to see it or maybe we start comparing ourselves to others that how blessed we are to be in a position to have experienced this, but what all this does is, it forbids our brain to process the feelings to take a deep plunge. A deeper connection with ourselves and our moment becomes just another passing moment. If you were born in the ’90s where no such distractions were there, you would remember how a small picnic brought you so much joy, mere basking in the sun with your friends had so much to it, not because we were children then but because we were able to surrender ourselves completely to the moment at hand.
Though we are new tech-savvy generation and that will remain as it is, I think having boundaries is important. A life where technology only makes our lives better and deep not just shallow is what should be our agenda.
This post is not against social media in any form rather I would add that we could even create a relationship with our social media by putting just love in there, where we stand tall in the truth of ourselves. So let’s add more value to our life by adding more value to our every little moment by being wholely in it, living life, loving life.
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