The best relationship advice I ever got

Love is what we all dream of and what makes it more dreamy are the movies, the songs, and today’s expectations around how a love relationship should look like. I am married to a person I fell in love with during my school time, and after having a distance relationship for over a decade we tied the knot. We are very much in love though and our fights, our differences of opinions, different tastes in life are the normality for us. I now realize one thing that was told to me by our principal when we were dating back then. She said, “Love is like a dessert, you have it in decent amounts after your meal, it is not your meal, if you take it as a meal it will make you sick.” Β Although we had our truly madly deeply moments back then and her advice fell on deaf ears, now they make more sense to me as they take the burden off us of how our relationship should be, we have our ways together but we also have our separate ways. We celebrate our relationship but we do have our space which we respect. When we cling too hard on love for our happiness we fall into a trap of blaming the other person for not making us feel a certain way, not doing things for us the way we wanted, but we should always remember we are solely responsible for our happiness. Our life is just not about the relationship we share with our partner, it is the relationship we share with ourselves. Our main course is what we do for our self to make us happy, they are our dreams, our ambitions, our hopes, and there we are alone in it, and then we come together to have this delicious dessert that makes our meal complete and add more joy to it.

37 comments

  1. Silky smooth, Sugary Sweet and A Lemon when tested!
    Very true narration!
    One who reads will remember his or her Loving Memories πŸ’—!
    I liked the Mind very much!

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  2. Yes… falling into love with your heart in your mouth can bruise your knees… one should gently open the door to love… walk in… and with eyes wide open… step carefully…
    πŸ‡―πŸ‡²πŸ–οΈ

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  3. The dream
    tells me
    in his own way

    where I am opposite
    underestimate

    and where i
    at one point
    could come
    if i get better
    would understand

    what me
    my partner
    wanted to teach for the better

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  4. Reblogged this on AmbersBlue and commented:
    We have to think of deserts when we are done with our meal. And we have to have our meal, multiple times a day. Whereas desert is an option we can choose to have any time in our lives. Thanks for writing this beautiful post!!!

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    • Thanks. πŸ™‚
      As kids, we don’t understand the psychological reason behind what grown-ups say to you but as you grow all the bits of advice of grown-ups start to make sense, but sometimes I wonder if naivety was better.πŸ˜…

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  5. How are you?
    On Thu, Jun 3, 2021, 8:08 PM Smiling Little Things wrote:
    > malaikamuses posted: ” Love is what we all dream of and what makes it more > dreamy are the movies, the songs, and today’s expectations around how a > love relationship should look like. I am married to a person I fell in love > with during my school time, and after having a distanc” >

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  6. Healthy relationships involve time together, and time separately but together. If that makes sense. We are our own person, who has chosen to spend this time with another, so if both agree it will work. Communication is the key, right?

    Thank you for sharing. πŸ’›

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    • Yes, you got the correct zest of it. It completely makes sense to me. Communication, understanding and respect.
      Thanks for coming by and spending your time here. I really appreciate it. πŸ™

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  7. Love , respect, understanding, trust combined with equal measure of breathing space is what makes a relationship strong…there is no ownership…just a belief of being always there for each other .
    Stay blessed πŸ™πŸ˜‡

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