Love is what we all dream of and what makes it more dreamy are the movies, the songs, and today’s expectations around how a love relationship should look like. I am married to a person I fell in love with during my school time, and after having a distance relationship for over a decade we tied the knot. We are very much in love though and our fights, our differences of opinions, different tastes in life are the normality for us. I now realize one thing that was told to me by our principal when we were dating back then. She said, “Love is like a dessert, you have it in decent amounts after your meal, it is not your meal, if you take it as a meal it will make you sick.” Although we had our truly madly deeply moments back then and her advice fell on deaf ears, now they make more sense to me as they take the burden off us of how our relationship should be, we have our ways together but we also have our separate ways. We celebrate our relationship but we do have our space which we respect. When we cling too hard on love for our happiness we fall into a trap of blaming the other person for not making us feel a certain way, not doing things for us the way we wanted, but we should always remember we are solely responsible for our happiness. Our life is just not about the relationship we share with our partner, it is the relationship we share with ourselves. Our main course is what we do for our self to make us happy, they are our dreams, our ambitions, our hopes, and there we are alone in it, and then we come together to have this delicious dessert that makes our meal complete and add more joy to it.